A Well-Supported Woman Heals Generations
What happens when a woman takes control of her life and becomes obsessed with reflecting on every aspect of her soul and actions?
When she says, life doesn’t happen to me and I will never be satisfied with my flaws. I want to understand every thought, sharpen my intuition and have emotional mastery by the will of Allah.
What you get a God conscious regulated Muslimah, who worked to get to this state. And how does she affect the others around her?….. Through her, generations are healed.
Let me tell you about Aziza……..
Aziza is a real person, she grew up in London and went to a normal public school. She had traditional parents.
Every Saturday, her mum had people over who came to buy from the small clothing collection she sold from their front room.
Aziza was taught to take the guests' jackets, put their shoes away, greet them at the door, and lead them to the living room where her mum was waiting.
They would drink tea, laugh, and try on clothes. Most of the customers were from the neighbourhood, so they knew her mum and siblings.
Aziza was constantly praised for listening to her mum, serving guests, cleaning up afterwards, and keeping her younger siblings busy.
But by Year 9, at age 14, Aziza began seeking a reward for all her hard work. She wanted a little space, to go out with friends or do something for herself. But her mother, being old-school, didn’t understand this need.
Aziza kept asking, kept trying. Just a little room to be herself.
Then one night, the most tragic thing happened not outwardly, but in her heart.
Her need to please her parents died.
She felt invisible. Like she had outgrown praise. Her efforts no longer mattered.
In that moment, Aziza made a subconscious contract:
"From now on, I’ll do what I want. Because listening to them doesn’t serve me." She felt rejected, unvalued, and confused about why she even tried in the first place.
This was the beginning of a breakdown in trust.
Aziza replaced her parents’ approval with validation from her friends.
She became a little more rude, a little more rebellious.
But she never let go of the core values she had been raised upon, even if the external influence crept in.
Fast forward 10 years later:
Aziza felt a deep hole in her life. She knew that she wanted to stop living a life where she was not reactive, impulsive and not making the best decisions.
First radical change - Allah became her therapist! Aziza spent hours alone speaking to Allah and finding solace in getting everything out that she held back in all her life. To her surprise every cry , every insecurity, every fear she shared with Allah , He sent her resources tailored to her specific problems.
Second radical change - She was deeply transparent about her flaws and how she contributed to the downfall of her life! Because she was sincere with Allah he gave her the courage to be real.
Third radical change - She prayed about everything she did and asked for guidance! Allah was the navigator of her life and closed the pathways that didn’t lead anywhere. She found pure bliss in all of her decisions because she trusted Allah, as He knows what is best and her life has only being beautified because of it.
Fourth radical change - She embraced her feelings whole heartly, was attuned to everything! People pleasing without it being for the sake of Allah was a thing of the past. Aziza knew that feelings are information from Allah and she was going process them from her higher self.
Fifth radical change - All the good people around her loved her, and anyone who has not good left! When you purify your heart and improve your character your soul shines through. It embeds in others who are too the same and repels those opposite.
Sixth radical change - She finally had healthily compassion and boundaries for others! Aziza realised when you look into the mirror that is your life, you understand every is human and you are not perfect. However understand how to protect yourself from harm as well.
Allah is the One who makes a woman well supported because He is the source of all guidance, healing, and provision. When a woman turns to Him sincerely, He strengthens her from within, granting her emotional resilience, clarity, and tawakkul. This inner transformation radiates outward, affecting how she nurtures, leads, and connects with others. Through His mercy, she becomes a pillar of stability, and her healed heart becomes the foundation upon which future generations thrive.
What I have learnt from Aziza story is……….
"Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves."
(Surah Ar-Ra’d, 13:11)
This powerful ayah reminds us that true transformation begins from within. Whether emotional, spiritual, or societal, change starts when we take sincere steps toward growth, healing, and obedience to Allah. When we do, His help follows in ways beyond imagination.
"If My servant draws near to Me by a handspan, I draw near to him by an arm’s length; and if he draws near to Me by an arm’s length, I draw near to him by a fathom’s length; and if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running."
(Narrated in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)
Allah transformed her life after she took the first step! She is now married with a loving husband and kids Masha 'Allah. She opened an educational institution helping women. She healed through Allah and is now a well supported women, who has the tools and skills to an anchor to her children and many generations later.
May Allah change our lives to serve Him and to have the best in this world and the next.
May we be the peace in our homes, the loved one in our families because Allah put that support and love in the hearts of others because we put Allah above everything.
May we take responsibility and be people who reflect and change our conditions even if it’s hard.
It’s the not giving up! It’s the breaking the habits and ways that are self-destructive for us and everyone around us.
I hope you take the step today….
Love and dua x
Zainab