When You’ve Done Everything

and Still Haven’t Found The One

She had done everything. Books? Check.

Seminars? Done.

Therapy? She had been there, too.

She spent countless hours praying, reflecting, and asking Allah to guide her toward her life partner. She was determined.

She had a vision for her life and knew the type of man she wanted, the kind of relationship she needed. And yet, the wait continued.

She had done all the work. So why has she still not met her husband?

Your mind is the garden, your thoughts are the seeds. William Wadsworth

Sometimes, it feels as though we’re planting seeds of hope in a garden that we tend to with every ounce of care. You’ve planted the seeds of your dreams, watered them with prayers, and nurtured them with effort. Only to watch those seeds remain just seeds. No flowers, no fruits. Just waiting.

You can’t rush nature. It moves in its own time, and so does Allah’s plan for you.

She found herself wondering if the delays were a form of protection. Maybe the men she had met simply weren’t ready, or more accurately, they weren’t on her level.

We also must recognise that sometimes, people are simply not capable of appreciating your worth because they are not yet prepared to meet you where you are.

They may not have the depth of character or the emotional maturity to truly value the woman you’ve become.

And while this can feel disappointing, it is important to realise that Allah, in His infinite wisdom, removes these people from your life for a reason. They aren’t meant to walk this path with you, as they are not yet ready for the role they would need to play in your life.

There was a time when she thought it was her, that she might have been doing something wrong.

But over time, she realised that her patience was not a flaw. She had been in the process of refining herself.

Allah was preparing her for something better.

What she came to understand was this……. rejection and incompatibility was not a sign of her inadequacy but a sign of Allah’s mercy. He was sparing her from paths that would not have led to lasting happiness.

She had grown beyond surface-level connections. She was ready for a love that would be deeper, more substantial, more aligned with her journey.

And then there was the peace she found in knowing that, just like Allah had protected her from those who couldn’t appreciate her, He was also preparing the right person for her.

If someone couldn’t see her worth, then they were not meant to be the one to walk beside her in this life and the next.

The more she reflected, the more she realised that all those moments of doubt, all the waiting, were necessary.

She was being prepared, just like a tree in the winter. The branches might have seemed bare, but underneath, the roots were growing strong. When the time came, she would blossom.

And as she waited, she began to trust Allah more. Her prayers became more specific.

She asked for someone who would nurture her, who would respect her boundaries, and who would walk with her through life’s ups and downs.

She learned that patience wasn’t just about waiting, it was about becoming ready, about trusting Allah’s wisdom and timing.

Gardeners, I think, dream bigger dreams than emperors. Mary Cantwell

When the right person arrived, she realised that all the waiting had been worth it.

The wait wasn’t wasted. It had been a journey of growth, of becoming the person she needed to be for the love she sought. And when that love arrived, it didn’t feel rushed or like it was filling a void.

It felt natural, pure, and blessed.

As she reflected on the years of waiting, the unanswered prayers, and the seemingly endless longing, she realised something powerful, the wait had shaped her into the person who could receive the love she had always dreamed of.

And as she stepped forward into this new chapter, she did so with confidence, with faith, and with trust that Allah’s plan had been far better than anything she could have imagined.

InshaAllah, your wait will be worth it too.

The love you seek is out there, waiting for the right moment.

Trust the process, trust Allah, and when the right time comes, you’ll know.

Until then, keep growing, keep praying, and keep believing.

Ameen.

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Ramadan Kareem

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