Good post! May Allah swt guide us all and grant us the best of spouces and healthy marriages full of grace, love, and barakah.
As a brother, let me add a tip of sorts. If you have a good and safe relationship with your brother, it can be a big help to have him read over your chat history with the potential. The guy doesn't need to know that you're gonna show the chat to your brother/father etc. I say he doesnt need to know because at this point in time, he shouldnt be trusting you with any secrets. The convo should be the same as though you were all in a room together with your mahram.
Let him talk to you normally. Then as you make istikhara and decide to take the discussion further (in person), have the brother/father read the chat. Sometimes they will understand things you won't or things you thought you understood accurately about the guy and his responses but you didn't quite get what he was saying. I say this from experience. Men understand men better as women understand women better. Rely on each other for respective strengths.
JazakAllahu khair for your thoughtful comment and for sharing such a valuable tip, brother. May Allah SWT indeed guide us all and bless us with spouses and marriages filled with grace, love, and barakah. 🌸
Your point about involving a trustworthy mahram like a brother or father is incredibly insightful. Having their perspective, especially when it comes to understanding another man’s intentions or tone, can provide clarity that we might miss. As you mentioned, men understand men better, and this can be a key part of ensuring that the conversation aligns with Islamic values and intentions.
May Allah reward you for reminding us of the importance of accountability and seeking guidance from our families in this journey. BarakAllahu feek. 🙏
This is a beautiful piece and I’m so happy her story ended well. I’ve been where she was but I dropped the apps. It got too overwhelming. Lately I’ve been thinking if I want to use them again. Inshaa Allah I’ll be able to attend your zoom meeting so I can gain more clarity on how to use the apps effectively.
Alhamdulillah, it worked out! Thanks for reading. Burnout is real, and taking a step back to reconnect with your intentions is so important. Inshaa Allah, I’ll be writing more on conserving energy and on single mothers (my favourite angle 😄). I’d love to see you at the Zoom meeting , for practical advice to make the process easier and more meaningful. May Allah guide and bless your journey. 💕🌸
What a brilliant piece. Ngl, I got triggered seeing the newsletter title in my email LOL. I love the way you told Amina's story showing the reality and the pitfalls of those apps. Happy to see her story ended with success!
Aww! I’m so glad you connected with Amina’s story. The title was meant to spark curiosity, I can understand how triggering it is at first. I’m also glad you appreciated the happy ending, Alhamdulilah 🌸
Good post! May Allah swt guide us all and grant us the best of spouces and healthy marriages full of grace, love, and barakah.
As a brother, let me add a tip of sorts. If you have a good and safe relationship with your brother, it can be a big help to have him read over your chat history with the potential. The guy doesn't need to know that you're gonna show the chat to your brother/father etc. I say he doesnt need to know because at this point in time, he shouldnt be trusting you with any secrets. The convo should be the same as though you were all in a room together with your mahram.
Let him talk to you normally. Then as you make istikhara and decide to take the discussion further (in person), have the brother/father read the chat. Sometimes they will understand things you won't or things you thought you understood accurately about the guy and his responses but you didn't quite get what he was saying. I say this from experience. Men understand men better as women understand women better. Rely on each other for respective strengths.
JazakAllahu khair for your thoughtful comment and for sharing such a valuable tip, brother. May Allah SWT indeed guide us all and bless us with spouses and marriages filled with grace, love, and barakah. 🌸
Your point about involving a trustworthy mahram like a brother or father is incredibly insightful. Having their perspective, especially when it comes to understanding another man’s intentions or tone, can provide clarity that we might miss. As you mentioned, men understand men better, and this can be a key part of ensuring that the conversation aligns with Islamic values and intentions.
May Allah reward you for reminding us of the importance of accountability and seeking guidance from our families in this journey. BarakAllahu feek. 🙏
This is a beautiful piece and I’m so happy her story ended well. I’ve been where she was but I dropped the apps. It got too overwhelming. Lately I’ve been thinking if I want to use them again. Inshaa Allah I’ll be able to attend your zoom meeting so I can gain more clarity on how to use the apps effectively.
Allahumma barik💐
Alhamdulillah, it worked out! Thanks for reading. Burnout is real, and taking a step back to reconnect with your intentions is so important. Inshaa Allah, I’ll be writing more on conserving energy and on single mothers (my favourite angle 😄). I’d love to see you at the Zoom meeting , for practical advice to make the process easier and more meaningful. May Allah guide and bless your journey. 💕🌸
What a brilliant piece. Ngl, I got triggered seeing the newsletter title in my email LOL. I love the way you told Amina's story showing the reality and the pitfalls of those apps. Happy to see her story ended with success!
Aww! I’m so glad you connected with Amina’s story. The title was meant to spark curiosity, I can understand how triggering it is at first. I’m also glad you appreciated the happy ending, Alhamdulilah 🌸